Here’s the situation. Somebody you’re interested in doesn’t necessarily like you. Even amazing dudes like you sometimes find themselves in situations where they are interested in somebody that isn’t interested in them. I’m going to review a few ways to change the situation.
You’re interested. She’s not. How to change that.
First, you must understand that you are the prize, not her. You are amazing, and tons of spicy fish are in the sea. But! There’s only one of you. You are incredible.
Next, analyze your social media presence. What pictures are you posting, and what are you saying? Sometimes we don’t realize we’re shooting ourselves in the attraction foot by what we put online. People form opinions in the first 3 seconds based on what they see about you or when they meet you. Ensure that the image you are putting out socially online is consistent with how you want to be perceived. Remove unflattering posts and pictures, and then be diligent and disciplined with future postings.
The following step is to slow down. When we meet somebody, we are often times overly aggressive or look too eager. Don’t come across needy if the person isn’t 100% sold on you. Take that energy, push it down, and hold on to it. You can still engage, however.
You also need to start flirting better. Sometimes guys aren’t great with flirting, whether with what to say or not to say. Do some playful disqualification over text messages. Ask a question whether or not in a text message, phone call, or in person. When they tell you the answer, playfully reject them. Check out my examples in the video. This playful disqualification will level the playing field, and the playful banter will get them thinking about you.
The next step is to find your outfit of awesomeness. What outfit makes you feel amazing and badass whenever you wear it? For me, it’s a simple pair of boots, jeans, a t-shirt, and a leather jacket. I also feel like the man getting dressed up for a wedding or an event wearing a killer navy pinstripe suit that’s fitted and tailored. I pair it with some sexy loafers and an unbuttoned white shirt.
Along with your outfit of awesomeness, I want you to upgrade and elevate the way you smell. Your scent is one of the most powerful nonverbal communication tools, and you have 100% control over it. If you smell incredible, people automatically and psychologically find you more attractive. On the flip side, if you smell bad, whether it’s too much overpowering fragrance or body odor, chances are zero that somebody will want to get with you. Don’t be repulsive or repelling. Grab this Pete & Pedro Fragrance Bundle for over $30 OFF and smell amazing!
The next thing you need to do is compliment her, whether it’s in a text message or in person. Don’t go overboard, however. Also, never compliment something physical. You can compliment her hair, which women spend a lot of time, money, and energy on. Also, compliment her shoes, jewelry, purse, intelligence, and sense of humor. If you’re at the gym, you can compliment her on her strength. You could even add some playful disqualifiers, such as saying you could never date anyone stronger than you.
Another step is carrying on a conversation while discussing subjects with more substance. Some dudes like to keep discussions on a surface level. For instance, ask probing questions that are introspective and emotional or divulge personal information about yourself. Vulnerability does not show weakness; vulnerability shows attractiveness and strength. It shows that you’re comfortable and secure with who you are and can open up and talk about what matters.
So many guys are scared about rejection and being outside their comfort zone. Make it a habit of being more exciting by taking risks, which is incredibly powerful and attractive. When you start living with less fear and taking more risks, you will see your success rise because you have the opportunity to achieve amazing things.
To be more attractive to higher caliber and quality people, take care of yourself, including working out and eating better. Stop drinking and doing drugs. Don’t do destructive things, and make better decisions. You will achieve much more than your buddies who are still doing the stupid stuff. Become the best man you could possibly be.
The truth is that some people will not be interested in you. You should not obsess or try to change their mind. Just be the best version of yourself. Take care of yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and aesthetically (style and grooming). Most of all, be nice, courteous, and kind. Do the things that you need to do to be a gentleman.