In the world of technology, people have lost the ability to speak clearly and concisely. However, over the years, I have learned some tricks and secrets I want to share to be a communication god. Even if you’re not a great communicator, you can learn to be amazing by applying what I share today. Develop your communication skills to have an advantage over 99% of most people who never learn.
In an age where everybody is communicating via technology, which includes texting and emailing, you need to be able to speak to get your point across. You need to be able to engage to get the job, girl, career, and more. When you become a better communicator, you can make more friends, date better people, and have more opportunities.
Simple steps to free-flowing conversations
Know more. A lot of us don’t feel confident when we communicate because we have a mental block. We’re worried we’ll sound stupid or don’t know enough to share our thoughts. We’re worried about being judged, so we don’t let go. Educate yourself on a specific topic to let the flow go during a conversation. Jordan Peterson is an amazing speaker who commands a room. He’s eloquent and never missteps. He doesn’t use filler words and is a powerhouse for communication. He says you should know a lot so you don’t have to think about talking points or a script when talking. If you’re shallow or not deep in knowledge, you will try to remember facts and details, and if somebody asks you questions or you get thrown off track, you could lose your mind and stammer and stutter using filler words. It’s easier to talk about what you’re passionate about, whether it’s guitar, video games, or business. You can fire off without having to think. It will just flow. The more you learn about things, the more it will facilitate better conversations. You’ll have confidence in interactions.
Read and write. Reading will help you communicate better because you will learn more and improve your vocabulary. I do a lot more writing than reading. Write down your thoughts and to-do list and journal. It’s an incredible way to communicate better because you’re more in touch with your feelings and thoughts.
Show emotions. Many fathers teach being stoic and not sharing or showing emotions. Mothers can force you to communicate, not shut down, express yourself, and freely talk. I can share how I’m feeling and express my emotions because my mother encouraged me to do so. You’ll get more comfortable speaking when you are in touch with your emotions because you’re not held down by fear and anxiety.
Why are you anxious? Do the deep work to analyze why you feel insecure or are prevented from having free-flow conversations. When you’re around friends, you probably have an easy time conversing. It flows, and you can cut it up. You’re not as vibrant or jovial when you go around different people, whether a work function or higher class people. You’re not as engaging because of fear. Perhaps it is fear of being judged or an awkward situation. You need to analyze and understand what’s going on so you can reduce the anxiety.
Practice. Engage people and ask questions. Give compliments, making you a better communicator and making conversations easier. Film yourself speaking and having conversations. You can watch it back, notice your body language, and then train yourself not to use bad behaviors such as filler words, poor eye contact, and stiff body language.
Stop using filler words. Filler words kill the flow and make you appear unsure of what you’re saying. Ask those around you what filler words you’re using. Also, film yourself and assess what you hear. You can break the habit by pausing, catching your breath, and mentally thinking about your next words. Pausing will give you time to allow your brain to catch up to your mouth and then draw people in. Pausing is an incredible trick for building engagement, interest, and connection with people.
Three conversations. Every day, initiate three conversations with people you don’t know. This could be at the gym, coffee shop, work, or wherever. Initiate the conversation and keep it going for two minutes, which can seem like an eternity. Go deeper than small talk by asking questions about them and sharing things about yourself. Work that muscle because the more you practice, the better you’ll get.
