From the age of three, I was obsessed with women and beauty. My mom often tells a story about being in a department store, walking past the doll section, and staring at a doll. My mom asked me what was wrong, and I just commented about how beautiful the doll was.
Over the last 49 years, I’ve learned a lot about women. I’ve had heartache, bad relationships, dated the wrong people, and more. But I found one who made me whole, and we are about to celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary. That being said, I want to share some of what I’ve learned about women over my 49 years on this Earth.
Now, if you’re with somebody and you deep down know that it’s not right, you need to do the hard thing and be honest. It’s a challenging thing. Many people can’t do it and end up staying in relationships longer than they should. Time is your most valuable asset, so you should not waste it with somebody who is not right for you.
Critical things I learned about women and relationships
- You shouldn’t be with her if she is not a good person. It doesn’t matter how beautiful she is; if she’s not a kind soul, it’s a red flag.
- Cheaters repeat. If she cheats on you, she’ll do it again. Do not ever let somebody disrespect you.
- Make sure you’re aligned physically, spiritually, and intellectually. If you’re not, it’s probably not going to work.
- If she wants you to change, she’s not the one for you. So, if she’s trying to change something fundamentally hardwired into who you are, you shouldn’t be with that person. She should accept your flaws and be willing to overlook some of your shortcomings. Nobody is perfect.
- Communication is key. Without it, your relationship will not last. You must roll up your sleeves and use your words.
- Pay attention to the little things. Listen to what she says and does, and do special things for her, especially when she least expects it.
- You don’t want to be with her if she’s bad with money. If her problem perpetuates into the relationship, it’s not just her problem anymore.
- Don’t date anyone who is not a hard worker. If she’s lazy, she will be lazy in the relationship, too.
- Don’t choose a fun or party girl because that will manifest into not-so-amazing behaviors.
- Avoid promiscuous women. But! This cannot be a double standard. If you go and sleep with tons of people, it’s not special anymore. If she flirts with your friends or tries to use sex as a weapon, these are huge warning signs.
- Avoid flirtatious women. Women who try to flirt with your friends are a red flag.
- Be aware of how she handles problems. It’s crucial how conflict and issues are handled. If she goes crazy and hits below the belt when you disagree, this is not good. If she goes nuts and has toxic behavior, this is also not good. She shouldn’t bring up the past, either.
- You need to grow together. You need to understand each other and be with somebody who uplifts you and thinks you’re fantastic. But you shouldn’t be with somebody who kisses your ass.
- She shouldn’t expect you to be perfect. You must do what you must to stay in shape and attractive, and she should reciprocate. Neither of you can get lazy.
- Don’t get lazy in the relationship. You can’t get lethargic with your passion. You also cannot get lethargic with your relationship, body, style, etc. You need to make sure you don’t get sloppy.
- Make her feel special. You want to make her crave you and want you. She needs you to pay attention and hold her in high regard.
- You should be somebody she can lean on. You shouldn’t try to solve all her problems, but you should be able to listen. If she wants you to fix them, you could fix them.
- Don’t be selfish in the bedroom. Many guys have this bad habit, which often originates from too much p^rn. Take your woman into account when it comes to satisfaction, and do what you can to make her feel satisfied.
